Talking to Your Partner About Toys
Bringing up adult toys with a partner can feel vulnerable — but it doesn’t have to be awkward. Here are some tips for opening the conversation with honesty and confidence:
1. Choose the right time:
Not mid-hookup or in a moment of tension. A casual, private moment works best.
2. Use curiosity, not pressure:
“Would you ever want to try…” is gentler than “We should be doing this.”
3. Normalize exploration:
Remind them it’s about mutual pleasure, not replacing them or “fixing” something.
4. Start with a shared article or toy page:
Browsing together can make things playful, not intimidating.
5. Be open to compromise:
If your partner isn’t ready for one type of toy, explore other ideas. This is a journey, not a race.
The best part? Talking about sex builds intimacy. Even if the answer isn’t “yes” right away, you’ve created space for honesty, curiosity, and shared growth.